1. Self love is the key. You don't need approval or recognition from others to be happy.
2. With #1 being said, you can project any image you want to the world but people will still have their own perception of you. No matter what you do, most likely they'd stick with their own opinion. You can care about what people think about you, but remember this so you'll remember that you do not need to care so much.
3. You are enough. You are always good enough. You will always be enough for things and people who matter. You don't always need to achieve something to be considered good enough.
4. Sometimes, we are the toxic person in other people’s story. Quit playing victim. Sometimes, you are doing the same "bad" thing. And no, honey, the world doesn’t revolve around you. It’s not always about you.
5. You can't make people do what you want them to do. They have their own interest, which is not always aligned with yours and cannot be forced to align with yours either.
6. Don't ever put anyone on the pedestal. Everyone you know are human-beings. They are bound to be imperfect. Most likely, they will disappoint you at one point of your life.
7. If you have to fight for something in your life, make sure you are not fighting by yourself. May it be a relationship, office policy, or, you know, climate change and world peace, having allies makes a huge difference.
8. When you're angry and you have this huge, emotional urge to confront the person causing you the pain, take a deep breath, drink a glass of water, and wait for two or three days. If by then you still want to confront them, go ahead.
9. Get yourself a hobby (or two or three) that you can get into until your old age. It will save you, and your loved ones, in the future.
10. People do have pattern in their behaviour. If they did it once, most likely they will do it again sooner or later.
11. There is never a good time for a bad news. However, if you say it sooner, people will have more time to heal. And sometimes, that is the best you can do.
12. Interacting with and taking care of your aging parents require another level of patience. Including being patient with yourself. Take all the time you need to adjust, take all the time you need for yourself. It's okay, it doesn't mean you're a bad person if you feel that it's hard. You are (most likely) doing your best, anyway.
13. Some barriers are meant to be there. If you cannot destroy it, it is okay. It doesn't mean you're not good enough. Maybe you're just meant to fit better in another place.
14. Just because you were being irresponsible and made mistake once or twice, does not mean that you are a bad person. You may make a bad choice, but it does not instantly erase all the good in you. You are, after all, only a human.
15. It's okay to have boundaries with people you care about, especially when you tend to care too much and they don't really reciprocate. As they said in the flight safety video: secure your own mask first before assisting others.
16. Learn how to enjoy your own company. It will save yourself lots of energy, time, and even money.
17. While you can (or maybe should) not really pay too much attention to what other said about you, what you have to keep in mind is you still need to take responsibility of your action. Yes, people might be talking about the wrong thing, but you might be the one who started it. Reflect before you react.
18. You can chase for anything, for anyone you like. The catch is: they might not meet you halfway. Unless you're totally, honestly okay with that fact, don't ever chase anything or anyone.
19. Newsflash: everyone is replaceable. The good thing is, it means that person you’ve broke your heart for? Yes, they’re replaceable. You’ll meet someone else, don’t worry. The bad thing? Well, you ARE also replaceable. No, you are not that special. With that in mind, you can reduce your ego a tad bit.
20. Pick your poison. It works in greening your lifestyle, it works in settling your life down. You may not be able to cut down all the bad things related to your lifestyle, but you can reduce.
21. Being able to differ self-love and selfish is important. Re-consider if it's still self-love if your action hurts people closest to you.
22. Going to therapy is a healthy habit and most people should really consider it, if they have the budget. IT IS MONEY WELL-SPENT.
23. You don't have to make a family out of everything. Most likely, you SHOULD NOT make a family out of everything. Attachment and drama are not really the best combo.
24. The worst person to lie to is yourself.
25. You cannot fight every battle, choose wisely. Don't fight the battle you knew you'd lose from the start.
26. You don't have to fix anyone. In most, if not all, case, you should not even try to. It's their job, not yours.
27. At one point, you need to stop blaming people for every misfortune you have in your life. When you reflect, you'd realize that sometimes it is your own, conscious act that cause the misfortune. Deal with it.
28. Even when you really want to give out a 10, it's still okay to give 7. It's still good enough and much better than giving out nothing at all.
29. Sometimes it helps to focus on the good side of people.
30. Overthinking kills your happiness. Take a deep breath and let go, you're doing your best anyway. Live in the now.
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